Threatened?
Posted in Pretty Girl BS on 09. Feb, 2010
You know what? I get it. It’s happened far too often since I hit 20 for me to not get it. I’ve lost too many male friends for me to not notice it. I threaten you. You have convinced yourself that I want your man. I mean that’s a rational fear. I‘ve known him for years before you appeared, but I waited until he started dating you to pursue him. Claro, of course! That makes perfect sense. You must wake up in the middle of the night shivering from the nightmares about me you’re having. It’s the only reason you’re worrying about me when I haven’t had any contact with my friend/your man in weeks!
I have said it once before, but allow me to say it again. I don’t pursue attached men nor do I acknowledge their pursuit of me if they are so inclined. But that isn’t the issue here, is it? It’s when there is no pursuit occurring, but you still want to spit when you hear my name.
Calm down. Really. Your unprovoked hate of me is only flattering anyway. Since we both know my behavior has not warranted your chokehold on your man, I have to assume it’s based on looks alone. Or it cause I’m Latina? Did Governor Sanford teach you to be wary of us? I’m not Argentinean so don’t worry.
I know not everyone has my mentality. I know that flirting is innocent until there are actions and that flirting is not a precursor always. I do not stress about other women coming into my relationship because if I thought my man were susceptible to it, he wouldn’t have been my man. More importantly, I’m confident about mine so there exists no need for me to side-eye any other female. Be they friends of his or passerbys on the street. So it behooves me to not attempt to apply my logic to your actions, and it’s better for my sanity to just limit contact with him.
Though your wariness of me does wonders for my already inflated ego, let me put your mind to rest. I don’t want him. I didn’t want him before you. Don’t project your insecurities and/or your distrust in your relationship onto me. Don’t make me the villain. I’m particular about my name and reputation. I won’t sit idly by while you attempt to give me one I do not deserve. Trust me…I can give you plenty of other reasons to hate me if you want without even touching your man. No need to create tales in your mind. If he’s doing things that are rising your instincts, he’s not doing them with me. I respect your relationship, but more importantly, I respect myself. And this queen doesn’t do late night calls nor does she have an idea what “keep yo mouf’ shut!”* even means.
The point is I do not come second to anyone so you need not worry. Direct your hatred onto the right person, and stop taking my friends away!
* (c) Seattle Washington
good read. i don’t understand why some women get jealous of male/female friendships. especially when said friendship was around way longer than her AND neither one of said friends disrespect the relationship. either way tell em how you feel! lol
I feel you on this one. A man who has to ditch his female friends when he settles down, that’s sad. She’s only asking for something bad to happen. But what type of man let’s his girlfriend dominate his friendships. That’s just absurd.
EXXXXXXACTLY!! I’m intensely loyal to my friends, whether they be male or female. I knew them and they were there for me before you even came into the picture — so I’m not ditching them because of your unfounded insecurities. That would make me a shitty friend and that’s not in me.
If you can’t handle my friendships, then you can’t handle me and I should therefore apologize because I’m the one who made the mistake…
Of dating you…
Reina, you know as well as I do, everything with women is about competition. Yes, other women are threatened by you. Because they see you as pretty or gorgeous or sexy, then their man MUST see you the same way. Heffa, this is NOT new information.
Women, by nature, are just that way. As much as we’d all like to think we have evolved past that, we have not. We see in other women what we wish we had or were and immediately assume that those qualities will lure our men away.
Some folks can’t help it, others can and don’t want to. If the relationship is important to you, then make it your business to engage these chicks in conversation. That may eliminate the threat. If it doesn’t, screw ‘em.
I got a million stories from my last year of high school until college about crazy ass chicks behind the same dude. We must chit n chat about this later. But now, you need to approach her as if you’re trying to help her out.
Give her a lil’ insight into her man, his likes, dislikes, what will get her ass kicked to the curb. She’ll appreciate it, if she has any sense.
That last part about giving insgight? You think that’s gonna fly? Females are CRAZY, they won’t see it as help. LMAO Reina would be lucky if she could get a whole sentnce out before the first punch is thrown.
Smarty, you’re absolutely right. This isn’t news to me, but this time, the woman in question actually befriended me. We talked often, and I thought we were heading toward a friendship. But you can’t be my friend when you’re slandering me behind my back, making false assumptions/accusations.
True. If ya’ll spoke often and you were under the impression that ya’ll were heading toward friendship, then all bets are off.
She’s spreading lies and falsehoods, she deserves a whooped ass. And if SHE can come between you and your boy, then ya’ll were never really friends. It hurts, but it’s truth.
Speaking as a chick who makes my friends my family, I can’t support the bullshittery that is this chick’s insecurity.
Now what happens when she’s exposed for being the crazy heffa she is and the relationship ends? He’s going to come crawling back to Reina, his friend. *smh*
Dudes need to stop being whipped and put their damn feet down.
lawd….I need to put on my glasses, i just butchered the way insight is spelled.
I’ll say it again…..the average woman is CRAZY. I mean it’s common sense isn’t it? If i’ve known your man for a long period of time and we’ve never hooked up, it should be obvious I don’t see him as anything other than a friend. But some women lack that common sense and confidence to deal with someone they view as prettier than them. There’s nothing you can do about it really.
Que mala! Dique “I’m not Argentinean so don’t worry.” LMAO!!!
I’m actually concerned about that with a friend of mine; he recently knocked some girl up (like an idiot) that he doesn’t even like (because he’s an idiot) and she’s the psycho jealous type that was actually parked outside his momma’s house not too long ago looking for him (because he’s an idiot)… so I’m guessing that our time together will soon come to an end, and not even because of the baby. Some bitches, I swear…lol
Tellemwhyumaaaad, son! LOL
Good post…but why did you have to bring up the good governor? You know that’s my homeboi! LOL
Sorry doll. You’ll prah’li forever be plagued w/such behavior. It’s all your fault, y’know….Aint nobody tell you to be looking all good n’ stuff, or to be all smart and ish…and to look like you got that kinda good-good that would make a man change the beneficiaries on his life insurance policy. Your bad. Own it.
This is much funnier because it hits home like a mofo, and I am GAY. I have not been with a man in forever yet no matter what all my homeboys girlfriends always have a problem with me, even if I was the one that hooked them up, which I rarely do. I had a situation once with a girl that I met and she started hanging out at my house DAILY after we met. Well I also had boys that came through daily and had been for years cause we lived close and they loved my cooking and we are, still to this day, best friends. The moment she fucked one of them, things changed. It was not “RIGHT” for him to be over my house daily, because it looked bad and she was starting to sense tension. Tension these insecure women tend to put out themselves! I refused then to care and I refuse now. I do not feed into other people’s insecurities nor will I ever. They create their own hell and they can live in it alone