He Leaves My Heart A-Flutter
Posted in Dating Perils, Him, Pretty Girl BS on 17. Nov, 2009
My palms are sweaty; my smile stretches across two miles; my eyes are bright but shifty; my blush covers 2/3 of my face.
Yes, ladies y gents, I have a crush.
Maybe some of you are thinking “Reina, you graduated high school a loooong time ago.” And you would be correct! (It wasn’t THAT long ago.) Still, why should that euphoric feeling be exclusive to adolescents? I enjoy staring off into space while imagining him and me holding hands and skipping through a field of daffodils. *sighs dreamily* You like it, too! Admit it!
Crushes are like being in purgatory but with unicorns and cotton candy! You’re uncertain as to whether or not your interest is requited; yet there has not been any glaringly obvious sign to the contrary. So when he smiles at/ talks to you, your heart rate spikes increasing your adrenaline leading to a bright red blush across your cheeks. A glancing touch in the hallway causes the wedding march to play in your head. When his name is mentioned around you, you have to bite your lips to contain the grin that wants to blaze across your face. It requires every ounce of restraint you possess to not confess in midst of a simple conversation with him how you’ve thought about locking yourself in a hotel room with him with a box of condoms and not leaving for 5 days while you discover where else he may have a tattoo. *crosses legs* Crushes can be arousing.
It’s hard to fathom how he doesn’t hear the pounding of your heart? How does he not feel the bore of your gaze from across the room? How does he not notice how he’s stolen your focus? Does he not see the way a look from him leaves you agog? How just the possibility of he & you have left every other man at a disadvantage? Nothing they can deliver immediately compares to what your crush does for you in your fantasy land.
So you know what? Here’s to crushes. It’s cardio exercise without having to run in place. It uplifts you from the humdrum that is your life and transplants you wearing a toga amongst the clouds. A crush is much more effective than that screensaver of the Bahamas on your desktop.
Maybe one day, I’ll tell my crush how I feel, but then I’d have to face the possibility of reality not leaving up to fantasy. The feelings around during crushes rarely last once you start dating. It’s like suffering the disappointment of Milli Vanilli all over again. I don’t want that. So until then, if you catch me staring off into space, just know that I’m thinking about him. Reina and *** sitting in a tree/k-i-s-s-i-n-g…
(Do you think I should tell him? When was the last time you had a crush? Do you have one now?)
Cardio exercise, you say? Well, i’ve been working out almost every day then! tee hee
Yep, I have a crush. I actually saw him from the window this morning while he was coming into the building. I actually followed him (with my eyes, people!) until I couldnt see him anymore *sigh*. If the door to the balcony opened, i would have leaned over to watch him some more.
Actually, i have 2 crushes here at work. The other one is wearing that rough/caveman look nowadays and I like it! He came in the other day all sweaty (well, kind of) from riding his bike to work and I was like hmmmm, still looking good.
I guess we should be thankful the balcony door does not open. No one needs you falling.
Reina!!
I love this!! What an awesome feeling it is, no? To have a crush on someone.. letting your imagination run wild.
I had a crush once.. on a co-worker! He was married! He was soo hot, tall, and Italian! Uy.. he flirted with me.. he stared.. he would walk into my office and ask me for gum all the time.. it never went past the smiles and innocent flirting. I had to put a stop to this once he asked me out to dinner. That was not cool.
As for your crush.. should you tell him? Hmm.. I would only tell him if I knew I was prepared to handle the truth.
Buena suerte, amiga! Keep us posted!
“Body like a coke bottle/I crush it like a coke can..”
I think adult crushes are mainly a female thing. At least, they’re the only ones that I see mention having them. I wonder tho.
Agreed. As males mature we become more in-tune with what we want and typically our drive/desire to get those things becomes more focused. My crushes don’t last longer than the train ride or the walk through the checkout line.
If I want it, I devise a plan to get it. If not…I admire the way she looks/moves while she’s in my sight and once she’s gone…she’s forgotten.
You girls are cute though…lol
“If I want it, I devise a plan to get it. If not…I admire the way she looks/moves while she’s in my sight and once she’s gone…she’s forgotten.”
Cosign. If I want it, I go after it. I don’t spend a lot of time speculating. While I’m dragging my feet, the next man might not. An opportunity missed.
I despise men and their boring logic.
They are so unromantical, aren’t they?
hehe I love crushes! Omg I used to have like one a week when I first started working on base (men in uniform, swoon). There really is an amazing kind of fun feeling, not knowing whether he likes you back. My last major (more than one week lol) crush is the guy I’m dating now. Meeting him did kinda put an end to the crush in that he’s not at all what I imagined he would be and its not really fun anymore. But its probably the first time that finding out he’s not *perfect didn’t send me a’runnin. Because he is really spectacular in other ways, ways that I hadn’t even thought of.
I say if you really think there’s potential for something more, introduce yourself. Or if he knows you, ask him to hang out sometime. The only thing you have to lose is ur tingly feeling, but you might have a lifetime to gain, who knows! But if he seems like he’s a player or in a relationship, let it stay crushed. He’l always be a single lover in your mind!
I’ve had a few crushes in my day. LOL. It’s been a minute since ole 12kyle had a crush on somebody.
I’d say go for it. Tell him how you feel! Why hold back? A closed mouth never gets fed. I’m sure that he’ll appreciate your honesty. You have nuffin to lose. You never know…he might feel the same way
and1grad is crazy. i have plenty of crushes. there are plenty of reasons why i haven’t acted or said anything to these crushes. i think crushes are cute. they give you a feeling of euphoria.
it really depends on a couple of things whether you should tell him or not. observe his actions around you. does he seem inviting? i doubt the last thing you would have to worry about is rejection.
I just wanna preface this by saying EFF MEN!
My last crush turn-out to be a jerk soooooo yeah.
Should you tell him? ehhh, you feel some kind of way about him….I think you should.
Wow…I read some of these dudes’ comments and think that it must really be cool to be so decisive and able to acquire that which they desire so succinctly. I still have crushes on coworkers and the like, but most of the time, they’re unaccessable, so I love em in my mind. And I’m cool on that
As I’ve gotten older I’m sure that I still have crushes. If I see something I like I must get a vibe before I just throw caution to the wind. I am pretty bold and believe in living in the moment but if our eyes don’t cross then it might not happen. I’m a diehard romantic but a brotha does need something to go on. A quote from the movie the Bronx Tale always sticks in my head…”You’re only allowed three great women in your lifetime. They come like great fighters; every ten years.” I want to make sure that I don’t miss mine. So a crush that is unspoken is just a dream. If you see it, and you get a vibe, then make it happen.
Awwwwwww! You have a crussssshhhhhhhhhh!!!!!! Que linda!!!!
telling him is up to you; I’m the #1 Queen of Chicken-Shittedness when it comes to telling someone I like them so, yeah, I have no advice.
And yes, I haves me a lil crush, but I won’t elaborate any further THE END GOODBYE!