Let’s Be Honest…Seriously
Posted in Dating Perils on 14. Jul, 2009
(Some women are idiots. Period. Click image for story.)
Men aren’t THAT impressive.
I mean…they’ll do.
I’m more intrigued by aardvarks.
So in my twenty-*mumbles* years on this earth, I can’t understand how they keep pulling shit on women!
7 years, 3 children, and still no ring? He kept you engaged for how long? You found out he had family on the side when?
Wait…wait…WAIT!
He cheated; you took him back, and he cheated again?
Nooo, huh?
You two have been fucking for 10 months, but when you asked him where you were going, he said something along the lines “Why the need for titles? Let’s just keep going with the flow” or “I’m not looking for anything serious right now.”
And let’s not forget…
As brought up in the comments of a recent Truth Merchants’ post…
Men are “naturally programmed to be obsessed with new pussy.” “Sexual monogamy is unnatural.”
All the above and more is bullshit. Complete utter bullshit. And if there exists any woman (and there are many) that continually falls for this shit, please step front & center so I can slap you.
Men only try this nonsense on women whom they believe will succumb to it. So if similar situations continue to happen to you, instead of labeling all men as dogs, maybe you should look within and find out what about you is attracting it?
Excerpts from a recent Gmail convo:
Moeguns: The majority of the women I’ve dealt with feel the same way for the most part, but the relationship conversation doesn’t normally take place unless we’re having sex on a regular basis. I can normally avoid the relationship talk if I limit our encounters to once every other month or so
me: lol See?
I’m convinced men know who to pull this on
Shit like that does not happen to me
Moeguns: You’re right…we know.
For me….if I don’t make any mention of the possibility of a relationship
with a woman…and she still has sex with me…
Money in the bank
Es verdad. Things like these do not happen to me. (Once. Twice at the most. And trust, I turned on my heel and didn’t look back.) Why? For one, I do not allow it. For two, I’m too analytical. Not much of a risk taker when it comes to my yoni or my heart. I need firm commitments prior to any investments & penetrations. Most importantly, though, I give more credit to men than that. As unimpressive as I occasionally find them, my belief in them has never wavered.
All men are not dogs. Let me repeat that. ALL MEN ARE NOT DOGS. I don’t even believe the majority are. Cheating is not indicative of a “man being a man.” If your man slept with your best friend, the nanny, the maid, etc., it wasn’t because he was a man. He’s a cheater. What a man wants, he goes after. If you’re doing all the calling, setting up dates, don’t be shocked when you discover you’re just his “when I’m bored.”
Temptation does not make a man stray. Threats will not make him marry you. Fucking him early will not persuade him to commit. New pussy will not make him leave his wife.
Men aren’t Navy Seals when it comes to dating. They aren’t motivated enough to engage in subterfuge over and over again. Cheating does not a dog make. Maybe…sometimes…it is just a slip up. (I don’t buy it, but for the sake of a fair argument, blah, blah).
However, a dog does cheat. We women know what kind of man we’re getting. We just like to believe we can change them. I’m sorry to be the one to say this, but nothing about you is dynamic enough to change a man.
Take your blinders off & open your eyes & ears. Truly see and thoroughly hear the man you’re pursuing. Men aren’t stealthful enough to not drop clues, intentionally or not. Blindsides are rare.
Maybe you need to refine what you’re looking for. Date outside of your perfect male archetype. Stop lingering in grey areas. Open your damn mouth. Be unafraid to demand more. Recognize that you’re deserving of it. BE deserving of it. And if he won’t provide it to you, then step. WALK AWAY. Better men exist. I promise.
However…
If you just CANNOT find a good man, then, it’s 99.9% probable that you’re just not a good woman.
Men aren’t that smart. Stop falling for their shit.
(Hope you like the new site! There are still a few loose ends to tie up, but this is it! Gracias, JR, for designing and putting up with my MANY requests. That lapdance is waiting.)
You didn’t tell me our conversation was being recorded! LOL But it’s true, most men can tell if a woman is an easy mark in a short amount of time. Once we put you in a category (relationship material or potential jumpoff), we adjust our strategy accordingly. The way a woman carries herself in the beginning normally dictates how she will be treated in the future.
Great post!
AMEN!! Some women (as vulnerable as they can be at times) have to go through so much S–T in order to finally wake up and smell the coffee!! A message to all- Regard your good name as the richest jewel you can possibly be possessed of – for credit is like fire; when once you have kindled it you may easily preserve it, but if you once extinguish it, you will find it an arduous task to rekindle it again. The way to gain a good reputation is to endeavor to be what you desire to appear. (got that from a book-can’t recall the name).
Men aren’t stealthful enough to not drop clues, intentionally or not.
I believe that should be PEOPLE, rather than men specifically. Also, as I think is often the case, more women just dont listen than men are trying to be a super spy. Oftentimes, you’re either told, or shown, up front what kind of relationship a guy is looking for. Seems to me that men arent more often fooling women. Women are more often fooling themselves.
I agree with most of your blog. However, some men can be just as stupid in what they allow women to get away with. Women are just as vicious and manipulative, yet the are better at hiding it. Wanna know what makes a man develop canine tendencies in his youth…a woman probably broke his heart and it stained him longterm. Guys don’t deal with heartbreak quite as easy.
F*ck that. I’m impressive. Outside of this minor detail, I agree with everything stated.
It really is one of the most fundamental traits about men: we’re only doing what is required to be with you or sleep with you. YOUset those requirements. Sure there are some loose chicks running around lowering market values — but no one is trying to build a future with them. Know your worth…and then let me know it!
Oh and you’re welcome, Reina. We’ll get the kinks worked out of this blog today or tomorrow. Although I thought we’d negotiated 2 lap dances? I know I have it written down here somewhere…
A little all over the map today, eh? I had a twitter conversation with this girl today about how she wished some dude would make it less obvious that he was dating other people. And I had to call her on it, because this is where women start getting themselves into the troubles you speak about above. If she wants to be the only one, she shouldn’t be dating a guy that’s not on the same wavelength. It just doesn’t make sense to. This almost seemed like new news to her, and she claimed that she cut him off today. But I bet you five bucks to Sunday, if this dude calls to ask her out, she’ll go. And she’ll figure out some way to talk herself into thinking that she’s ok with it. And then talking herself into thinking that she can do some naked wrestling without catching feelings. And then talk herself into…ad infinetum. Smarten up, wimmenz
You are a rare woman, Reina..truth is your blog wont reach enough women to change anything, and even if enough women did read it, they will be too blinded or dickmatized to realize you are talking about them..You underestimate us as most women do thinking we are stupid or dont know what we are doing, but we do, and the proof is in you feeling the need to right this blog in the first place..sooner or later you will be one of the women you are referring to in this blog and when that happens I will right there, with that devilish smirk on my face as I get dressed and walk out the door, without so much as a kiss goodbye.. only to call you months later when I am bored and feel like blessing your existence again with mine..resistance is futile..may a dick hypnotize and blind you to the truth as well one day..(doing evil vincent vangogh laugh)
Sincerely….
MAN.
LMAO…good blog as always lady..
Spite..
Pure, unadulterated, awesomeness.
Damnit Reina! I thought we discussed this already. You can’t keep hipping everybody to my game! I’m Oh-so clever, and you’re giving away all of my secrets! How else am I going to write my book and have my VH-1 reality show like Mystery? Sheesh….you’re going to make a bruvah have to get a REAL job and work for a living.
Great post. I love it.
LMAO@ MAN – “dickmatized”.
I love this post! It’s a wake up call that I need ever so often.